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Life-changing Lockdown Lessons

April 29, 2020

New Zealand has been in Lockdown for 38 days as a result of the Covid-19 Pandemic. We have been at Lockdown Level Four, one of the stricter Lockdowns across the world. Essentially – stay home. But along the way, there have been a number of life-changing Lockdown lessons.

The easing of Lockdown

We are now on the eve of the Lockdown easing to Level Three. This will mean a few more freedoms. Some can go out to work if it is safe. You will be able to get takeaway food and real coffee! Retail remains closed, and many businesses will continue to struggle. If you are not at work, getting essentials, or exercising locally, you must remain at home. In your ‘bubbles’.

New Zealand has done well. Our “team of five million” has drastically cut the number of cases, our death toll stands at 19 to date.

But on the eve of easing Lockdown, its a time of personal reflection for me. I wanted to write not about the virus, and the terrible things it has caused. Instead, I want to remember both the time we spent in Lockdown and what I have learned. To consider how the Lockdown has changed me personally, for the better. About how it has been a period of personal growth. And about how those lessons learned in Lockdown have been life-changing.

A Life-changing Lockdown Journey

Lockdown has been a strange time. A time with highs and lows.

The low points came quickly, with my teenage daughter’s confusion and stress at being forced into a different life. A new and different routine caused her anxiety to spiral. I know in my heart that inside is a scared little girl, but on the outside she was an out of control teenager, taller than me, breaking things and threatening to kill her little sister.

Then she settled down. Settled into a new routine. A relaxed routine. Away from the pressures of her normal life.

And our family started to settle into lockdown life. Sleeping in, every morning. My morning run. A lazy coffee in the sun. Breakfast around 10. Work and school for a few hours. Lunch. Yoga or a bike ride. Free time. Wine time. Dinner. Netflix or a family movie. Sleep. And repeat.

The nightly driveway wines, our neighbors in their drive, us in ours. The kids playing in the culdesac. Tennis, riding bikes, skates, scooters. Reading books.

Board games. Teddy Bears in windows. Exploring the golf course. Collecting pinecones and mushrooms.

Starting a business.

Celebrating milestones

Along the way we celebrated and remembered life’s milestones. We celebrated my birthday. Remembering a year ago the amazing time we had with our closest friends, touring wineries in the Hawkes Bay.

We celebrated our wedding anniversary with a vintage pinot we had collected from a small Queenstown winery. With a cheese board. In front of a roaring fire.

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Easter arrived and we made hot cross buns and had an Easter Egg hunt around the garden. Miss M’s pet rabbit Minty decided her Easter Egg (rabbit) smelt pretty yummy. And ate it. With the family in fits of laughter, we decided Minty had a streak of cannibalism in her when it came to chocolate bunny rabbits.

Then there was Anzac Day. A day of remembrance for those that fought for our freedom in the World Wars. To remember those that did not grow old. And to be grateful to those veterans, now the most at risk in this pandemic. I rose at 6 am, stood in the driveway, and watched the sunrise as a Bugler in our neighborhood played The Last Post. Along the street, our neighbors stood in solidarity. We will remember them.

Lockdown Life Lessons

Before Lockdown there were two main pressures in my life. Work was the first. The second was my daughter’s behavior, and the stress it put on the family.

Whether it was leaving work, my daughter’s unexpected relaxation, or being forced to stay in one place, I have remembered how to stay still. I have found peace. And contentment.

I am present in the ‘now’. I no longer half-listen to conversations going on around me. Nod, aha, yeah, yup, ok. Until someone asks me a question. Usually my husband. And I can’t remember having the conversation.

I am happy. I’m content. And relaxed. I can enjoy the company of my husband. And love being around my children.

I feel confident again. The anxiety has gone. I can breathe.

Lockdown has been life-changing.

Take care.

XX

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Parenting

Thirteen candles – walking on egg-shells and dodging land mines

July 8, 2018

There were thirteen candles in our house this week. Officially a teenager in the house.  A milestone duly celebrated with even more teenagers for a teenage sleepover!!

All whilst I’ve pledged not to touch a drop of alcohol for Dry July!  Luckily for me, a compassionate mother has sponsored me a “Golden Pass” so I can commiserate the upcoming teenage years with a well-deserved glass of red wine.

So what are we in store for?

The metaphor of conquering Everest in the wrong shoes springs to mind [Rachel Halliwell on the terrible teens] 

To me, the most surprising thing is how much my 13-year-old resembles her two-year-old self.

Like her two-year-old self, she is prone to tantrums because she cannot find the “right” shoes or the pants she wants to wear are in the wash (absolutely my fault, washing should be a same-day-service, oh, and I should be a mind reader and ensure that whatever has been dumped on the bathroom floor appears clean on the day she wants it!).

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