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A catch-up Update, our new direction is North

January 24, 2020

So I’ve been noticeably absent from this blog for quite a while. I recently published a post, that I wrote in March last year. A lot has happened, and we have made a couple of BIG decisions in the last 12 months. Once again, we are heading off in a NEW direction. So the purpose of this post is to fill you in on what has been happening and enlighten you as to our new direction!

If you have been following this blog, you have probably worked out I was a stressed-out mother and career woman. The classic ‘rushing women syndrome’ type.

With our girls growing up fast the chaos all got too much. My husband gave up his job in May last year so that he could help out more with our girls, and at home, and generally support me in my career. It has worked wonders with the girls, Miss T’s behaviour has improved remarkedly, and Miss M’s enthusiasm for school and learning has returned. My husband has loved the new lifestyle and has started his own part-time business. On most accounts, it has been a success.

However, I’ve remained stressed. I felt stuck. And my health has deteriorated. Being the breadwinner wasn’t working for me. With Hubby not wanting to go back to work, we started to seriously think about our dream of travelling with the children. A dream that we had put to one side as ‘unrealistic’, while we continued to focus on our careers, paying off our mortgage and saving for retirement … the safe, the normal.

We thought about our parents. My father who passed away at 52, and my mother ín law who died at 59. Neither of whom reached retirement. Sitting here, working hard and saving ‘life’ for retirement wasn’t sitting well with us.

So again we thought of taking some time out for travel.

If we were going to travel, it had to be now. Before Miss T’s High School exams next year.

We made a decision. We are doing it.

I have officially resigned from my job. We have sold an investment property to fund the trip. In two months’ time, we will both be unemployed! Our home will be rented out. And we will be on a plane heading for the adventure of a lifetime with our children in tow!

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It’s time for our Happy Ever After!

January 1, 2020

Well, it has been a while. I have been missing in action from my beloved blog since we started renovating last September. We purchased a rental property. We had great intentions of working hard as a family and building our future together.

It was a romantic notion. The reality of six months of renovating was much more stressful.

By Christmas, I hadn’t taken a single day off since the start of September. I was eating terribly. I put on weight and I couldn’t motivate myself to get outside and exercise, my vice to keep my head clear. Every morning I woke up in tears.

Last week one of my key staff members resigned. The reason? Being a Partner in an Accounting firm is no longer her dream. She sees me running around, juggling children, husband and career. She tells me my lifestyle is not what she wants out of life. And she is not the first female to say that to me. It is almost funny – how many strong, intelligent and driven women can I put off actually having a career and a family?

And to top it off. Tonight my 13-year-old daughter threatened to kill herself. Why? Because I said no to her plans for an overseas holiday. I don’t think I need to explain how I felt about this. Needless to say, there were a lot of tears involved.

So, I’ve been missing in action from my blog – but not much has really changed. We are still working, and working, and working. The kids have suffered, likely so has our marriage – although we are miraculously still together!

I think we took on too much… But I am not going to dwell on this. This is not something to think through and plan and plan and plan. It is time to act. Time to take ownership.

Happy ever after starts now

My husband will resign from work next month. It will leave a great big hole in our budget. But it is time to finally be brave and to make the changes in our lives that we have dreamed about for so long.

This is the start of a new journey. My journey as the Breadwinner, with a stay at home husband. Our story of how we will survive giving up $130K a year. But we will fill that hole with family, and with love.

This is our story of Happy Ever After.

March 2019

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Happy Monday!

August 19, 2018

I am the first to dread Mondays in our house.  I suffer horribly from the “Monday Blues”. But I’m done with it.  It’s not helping me or anybody else, so I’m turning over a new leaf.  Welcome to POSITIVE MONDAYS!

This week it’s back to work as normal.  I’m slowly recovering from the flu, and my brain is almost functional again.  I just got a pay rise (not sure if that is a good thing, or if it just adds to the handcuffs, but an interesting topic to explore later…).  And, if all goes to plan, we may even buy a house this week!

I wish you all a fantastic week, with whatever it is you are doing.  Remember:

“When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love – then make that day count!“
Steve Maraboli

Have a great week!

XX

#mondayblues Monday Accounting 4 Chaos



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Today I played lego – living my truth.

May 30, 2018

What does the phrase “living my truth” mean to me? It is about being at peace, and content.  And the freedom to be me, to drop the mask of the person I show the world, and to honour what is important to me.

“Living my truth” is a journey in getting to know myself.  But one benefit of going through the grief process is that it makes you stop.  Stop and assess what is really important to you.

Years ago I wrote my goals down. It was in the wake of losing my mother-in-law suddenly, and in the context of having already lost my father to cancer, long before he could walk me down the aisle or ever meet his beautiful grandchildren. One of my goals was to:

Spend more time with my children. Make that QUALITY time. Spend more time playing hairdressers and bouncing on the trampoline and making cakes and reading stories.

Today I did this.

Continue Reading…

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Staying still – how I find my balance.

May 10, 2018

The most beautiful necklace a mother can wear is her child’s arms around her neck.

I’m on the road and I’m missing my girls. My youngest has been sick and I haven’t been there to give her cuddles and fall asleep with her in my arms. I’ve been away from home since Monday and I’m feeling the Mummy guilt.

I’m hating the job that is taking me away from them.

But I’m also forced to have time out, time to myself – without the noise of housework and homework and grocery shopping and family. Continue Reading…

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